So today is day 4 of learning to blog, however I am in the process of meeting people to teach me how to edit and promote my content. A long process but I’m loving it. My 1st goal is 100 blogs in 100 days which I’m finding is actually liberating and I am genuinely feeling a sense of release.

Long term I plan to put together some organised processes around communication for schools, businesses and individuals and I am sure that will come within the 100 blogs.

Communication relates to absolutely everything we do consciously and if we can become more mindful and more aware we bring the subconscious to the surface. Sometimes I feel like humans walk through life with their eyes closed. If anyone has seen Percy Jackson and the lightning thief it’s entrapment in the lotus bar. Distracting you from reality. We communicate using body language, words and tonality these are tools that get us through daily living at home and in work. Accountable communication is when you decide to own it. When you want to understand who you are and where you are going and in order to grow we need to make changes. The saying ‘If nothing changes, nothing changes’ resonates with me because in order to grow and develop changes are needed. Sometimes on a small scale and sometimes on a large scale. My personal changes this year have been:

1. I have given up alcohol for 365 days and so far not missing it, infact feeling more alert and on the ball than I have been in years. Plus I have a bet with my 16 year old!

2. I love my fitness and usually have some kind of self challenge going on. This year it was 100 military press ups every day throughout January, which at the beginning using strict form I could only complete 2, now I can complete 15 and I am still going strong and getting that 100 done, and it’s helped push my bench press up to 50kg from 40kg and guess what? Yep I now need to go to 60kg.

3. I started this blog and jumped right in with zero discussion from anyone, even my husband. Because if I had discussed it with him I would have talked myself right out of it. If I had googled the title I would have thought there are people out there so much better. I would in a nutshell found a reason not to do it. I have given no one my link or even told them it’s like I’ve switched off and gone underground.

The weirdest thing is I feel like someone has taken over me. I have so much to get out there, I write and hit publish. Hubby said do you want me to proof read it? NO I do not because then the questions come up, doubt sets in and it’s all deleted and I continue going through life feeling like I could have made a difference.

If this is aimed at businesses is it too personal? Guess what? I am a person. I listen to my husband on calls, I am in a sense a business advisor for our business because people and relationships can be tricky. I would be a rubbish lawyer because I can see so many points of view and I would argue for and against myself but one thing I have managed to control is my temper, not that I am some kind of complete lunatic, although my kids may argue otherwise, especially when it comes to 8 peoples laundry, that can seriously throw me over the edge. But I have learnt that you cannot fight fire with fire. When voices are raised no matter parent to child, teacher to student or person to person we simply shut off, the words are not being heard so we need to restore calm, walk away and have the conversation later.

A lot of people like to talk and that’s great if you want a conversation but how many people talk but don’t want to listen. There is a reason we were born with 2 ears and 1 mouth.

I briefly want to touch on money, that is almost a dirty word. I am keeping this brief because you can associate money with anything which is why I love the subject so much. So I will talk about this down the line but the way I have learnt to understand and think about money and unrelate to it’s form is simply:

Money = Options

If you have no money you have no options and I absolutely love looking at it like this because it inspires me. It is a tool of barter if you have no money you have no options. If you have limited money you have limited options and so on and this is how I look at money and see it as a clear tool. Not status related just what you want out of life and what options are you going to create to accomplish just that.

Yesterday I questioned what I was doing. I realised after I hit publish I had misplaced a word in my blog and It really knocked me. I started to doubt myself. That will always happen at some point in a a lot of situations but when you weigh it up rationally what’s going to happen? No one reads my blog. The end but what have I got out of it personally. A huge sense of satisfaction that I can switch a computer on and actually get this far which is huge for me in itself. It has distracted me from my over obsession with training and macros and how much I can lift and how far I can run. I feel like I have something worth while to say and to be listened to, even in a boring format. Finally I am a Mum to 5 and a wife but I am also me and I am making a comeback so that’s all good. We all have a story all of us, we are all people and I believe undoubtedly we all have a gift. My gift is optimism. Over flowing optimism and it’s been there my whole life, I love a challenge. I can think outside the box. I can always find a solution. That is my gift. I am genuinely thankful, after all it’s so much better than finding a problem for every solution.

Thank you for reading

Rebecca